Well the question I think you’re asking is which personality type in the most compatible with the INTJ. That would be the ENFP.

Now I know what you’re thinking. “Extroverted? Feeling? Are you kidding me right now?” I was equally disbelieving at first, but let’s start with the facts.

INTJ Jungian functional preference ordering:

Dominant: Introverted Intuition
Auxilliary: Extraverted Thinking
Tertiary: Introverted Feeling
Inferior: Extraverted Sensing

ENFP Jungian functional preference ordering for ENFP:

Dominant: Extraverted Intuition
Auxiliary: Introverted Feeling
Tertiary: Extraverted Thinking
Inferior: Introverted Sensing

We are attracted to personalities that share the same dominant function (in this case, Intuition,) but use it in a different way. ENFPs use all the same functions as INTJs, in almost the same order, but attitudes of those functions (introverted vs. extroverted) are switched, so they think in very similar patterns but about very different things.

ENFPs also have this almost psychic ability to read people, and INTJs give very little information for the outside observer. What this means is that ENFPs are one of the only types to actually pick up on the importance of the few subtle clues INTJs do give off. It’s actually a little alarming at first. They notice INTJs, and not only that, they find them incredibly interesting. Much like an INTJ is constantly searching for things they find intellectually stimulating, ENFPs are always looking for people they find challenging. It’s the kind of puzzle they like to solve, and an INTJ fits the bill perfectly.

So what does this mean in a practical sense? The ENFP will make the INTJ talk — they might even become downright social when it comes to their ENFP — and the INTJ will make the ENFP think. Their similar thought processes make conversation incredibly easy, and they bring out the best in each other. It’s just a sort of magical, instant understanding that’s incredibly difficult to find, especially for INTJs.

ENTPs are also very well suited for INTJs, because their functions are Ne Ti Fe Si (identical to INTJs but opposite attitude,) however, since they’re both Thinking types, it’s difficult for them to connect on an emotional level. They’ll connect brilliantly in every other way, but since neither are Feeling types, they’ll both circle away from emotional situations. They’ll get there eventually, given enough time, but it won’t be as instant or easy as with an ENFP.

As far as who has the most in common, that would obviously be a fellow INTJ. INTJs rarely team up with each other, however, since neither is the type to instigate a social situation, and they don’t play well with others.

Which type adores the INTJ most? In my experience, that’s ISFJs. This rarely works out well, though (not that it can’t. One of my best friends is an ISFJ.) ISFJs get a major case of hero worship around INTJs, and INTJs are just narcissistic enough to let the ISFJ stroke their ego. INTJs have a certain intensity that draws the ISFJ in. To the ISFJ, the INTJ is that smooth, debonair, I-wear-my-sunglasses-at-night action hero. They have a quiet confidence and control over their emotions that certain, less secure ISFJs envy.

The problem is, INTJs are not masters over their emotions; they just don’t experience emotion the same way Feeling types do. The ISFJ will enter the relationship thinking that if they just stick around long enough, if they just try hard enough, then they’ll eventually break through to the INTJs warm, gooey center.

Now, INTJs are many things, but warm and gooey are not among them. Underneath their cool, calm exterior is simply a cool, calm interior. Their emotions are just a small chip on their massive hard drive. ISFJs will get frustrated and think that the INTJ is stubbornly refusing to open up to them. They will take this personally. Either that, or they’ll assume the INTJs shallow emotions are the result of some sort of psychological damage and insist that the INTJ needs help.

Because INTJs are bad at predicting the emotional responses of others, and since the ISFJ has strong emotional reactions, but is rarely forthcoming with the details, the INTJ will hurt the ISFJ’s feelings without ever realizing it, and won’t understand why their ISFJ is suddenly angry and passive-aggressively sniping at them.

In turn, the INTJ will become incredibly frustrated by the fact that their ISFJ, because of their introverted nature and the tendency of Feeling types to use veiled language, won’t just say what they’re thinking (“No, you said ‘we’re out of milk.’ If you wanted me to pick some up on the way home you should have asked me to pick some up on the way home!”)

That said, any type can have a healthy, satisfying relationship with any other type. You just have accept them for who they are, not who you would like them to be.



INTJs are very independent. We like engaging in a good argument, especially when the other person can express their opinions intelligently. Other people are sometimes threatened by our opinions, and we can come off as critical or condescending. INTJs are frequently high achievers. We thrive in environments where we are intellectually challenged and our work is fairly evaluated. The flip side is that we often stress ourselves out over meeting the impossibly high standards we’ve set for ourselves. We’re often perfectionists, and this can create a lot of stress and feelings of self-doubt. Breaking through an INTJ’s shell can often seem difficult for other people, so close friendships and relationships can be a challenge. INTJ females, in particular, can be very intimidating to the opposite sex because we place such a high value on intelligence and independence.



I hate when my family and friends think it’s a bad thing that I’m “un-sociable.” Um, no. I just don’t like talking to people when there is nothing to talk about. Small talk makes me itch. “But how will you make new friends if you don’t make an effort to talk to people?!” I have friends, thank you very much. I’m not dying from lack of social interaction. And besides, the majority of people my age are…well… :|




The Mastermind (INTJ) is very focused as well, but more on an internal vision. They are good at solving problems and like to work on tough intellectual puzzles. They are often led into technical positions such as scientific researcher, design engineer, environmental planner. The developing field of genetics benefits from their intensity as does the field of medicine. In education they are most often found at the college and university level. In the professions, they may be a lawyer, a business analyst, or strategic planner. Some have a strong artistic/creative bent and may become an artist, inventor, or designer. Whatever they do, they do it with intensity. Says Kim, “I am constantly teaching myself something new in order to solve the problems that I encounter. My husband leaves me alone when he sees that I am caught in what he calls my “Thinking Time.” I’m unwinding knots even in my sleep.”



“Decisions come easily to them; in fact, they can hardly rest until they have things settled and decided. But before they decide anything, they must do the research. Masterminds are highly theoretical, but they insist on looking at all available data before they embrace an idea, and they are suspicious of any statement that is based on shoddy research, or that is not checked against reality.” (Anyone who has seen me try to buy anything knows this.)

Damn Fucking Straight.





Does your INTJ like you?

Fuckin’ wow.

I’ve never felt so objectified in my entire life.

“Well, you don’t like me as more that a friend, so we just won’t be friends at all, k?”

That makes sense, doesn’t it?

Here’s a little lesson for you god damn motherfucking KIDDIES out there.

Here’s my list of ways to tell if an INTJ likes you (And if they don’t)

If they give you any positive attention whatsoever, you can consider them your friend; if they mock you in a way that’s intentionally hurtful, and in a way that makes everyone else laugh at you, they probably don’t like you.
If they disregard your flaws, especially if you’re really fucking irritating about how you’re better than everyone (Including the INTJ), then they might consider you a close friend; if they inform you of this flaw every time you’re within close vicinity, they probably don’t like you whatsoever.
If they come out of their mind when you start talking or because they have an interesting idea they want to share, and proceed to pay attention to you no matter what, they probably like you a lot; if they just say “uh huh” or nod whenever you’re droning on about your shitty life, don’t confuse that with interest. They’re just being polite.
If you ask if they like you as more than a friend and they tell you that they don’t feel like telling you, they probably don’t. If they say anything like that, don’t bring it up again, ever. You will piss them off, and that will ruin any chance you may have had with them, since you called them selfish and blamed your insecurities. Fucking baby.

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Again, that’s the short version. Be grateful that I shared at all.