In many cases an INTJ knows much better how another person is feeling but already at a very young age they learned to keep their mouth shut because when it comes to feelings, hardly anybody agrees. (which may result in doubt in some and ignorance in others.)


From an INTJ point of view, the way people deal with their feelings is the most irrational thing in the world. One day a certain something happens and you react in a happy way. The INTJ recognizes that and tries to replicate it to make you happy again. But for some strange reason, the next time you get upset. If you are that unpredictable a lot, INTJ's back off.