Attachment Styles and Close Relationships 

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Thank you for completing the Close Relationships Questionnaire/Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised Questionnaire. This questionnaire is designed to measure your attachment style--the way you relate to others in the context of intimate relationships. As you might suspect, people differ greatly in the ways in which they approach close relationships. For example, some people are comfortable opening up to others emotionally, whereas others are reluctant to allow themselves to depend on others.

According to attachment theory and research, there are two fundamental ways in which people differ from one another in the way they think about relationships. First, some people are more anxious than others. People who are high in attachment-related anxiety tend to worry about whether their partners really love them and often fear rejection. People low on this dimension are much less worried about such matters. Second, some people are more avoidant than others. People who are high in attachment-related avoidance are less comfortable depending on others and opening up to others.

According to your questionnaire responses, your attachment-related anxiety score is 3.73, on a scale ranging from 1 (low anxiety) to 7 (high anxiety). Your attachment-related avoidance score is 1.78, on a scale ranging from 1 (low avoidance) to 7 (high avoidance).

We have plotted your two scores in the two-dimensional space defined by attachment-related anxiety and avoidance. Your approximate position in this space is denoted by the blue dot. (Note: If you left any of the questions unanswered, then these scores will be inaccurate.)


As you can see in this graph, the two dimensions of anxiety and avoidance can be combined to create interesting combinations of attachment styles. For example people who are low in both attachment-related anxiety and avoidance are generally considered secure because they don't typically worry about whether their partner's are going to reject them and they are comfortable being emotionally close to others.Combining your anxiety and avoidance scores, you fall into the secure quadrant. Previous research on attachment styles indicates that secure people tend to have relatively enduring and satisfying relationships. They are comfortable expressing their emotions, and tend not to suffer from depression and other psychological disorders.
Since the mid-1980's, a lot of research has been conducted on attachment styles. To learn more about this research, please visit this link. Thank you again for visiting this site.

http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl

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http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/mind/surveys/morals/index_12.shtml?_name=morals&age=&gender=&occupation=&education=&rate1=2&Q01=6&rate2=3&Q02=5&rate3=1&Q03=10&rate4=2&Q04=3&rate5=2&Q05=13&rate6=1&Q06=13&rate7=1&Q07=11&rate8=1&Q08=9&rate9=1&Q09=12&rate10=3&Q10=11&rate11=2&Q11=12&score=36.5


Results

You scored 36.5 out of a total of 44.

Audience's Scores

1 % 1 % 32 % 66 %

0-11 12-22 23-33 34-44
My Results

Your score puts you in the mature category of social reasoning and the majority of people will have scores in this range. Thinking here transcends the practicalities of one's preferences and exchanges to an emphasis upon social feeling, caring and conduct.

You take into account the consequences of actions for other people, whether for benefit or harm, as a consideration in its own right for deciding how one should act towards others. You emphasise relationships, thinking how you might feel if you were on the receiving end. Empathy is important, as well as compassion.

You are likely to expect others to conform to normally expected conduct, reflecting on "common decency" and will think of the chaos caused by laws being broken. You will value, love and respect others, and appreciate some higher values, as well as speaking of the benefits of a clean conscience or pride.

I'm lonely because the only place I like to be in is my own head. It annoys my friends. But they don't have anything cool to offer and they find weed smoking inappropriate. Oh well,



In other words, I find perfection in simplicity, not complexity. There are exceptions, perfection or the concept isn't always necessary for me to enjoy something. I tend to prefer more complex music as opposed to the more mainstream simplistic music for example.

i really dont like other intjs. i guess its the same way a dog doesn't like seeing another dog during a walk. It's just like, "this worlds only got room for ONE INTJ, and you aint it"

They can take you back into the center of your mind and let you see things that you had at one point in time forgotten in order to protect yourself from going crazy. Otherwise what is known as "A Bad Trip". I'm guessing that he's got some skeletons in the closet and found them while tripping.


it feels like somebody took my heart, and dropped it into a bucket of boiling tears. And at the same time, somebody else is hitting my soul in the crotch with a frozen sledgehammer. And then a third guy walks in and starts punching me in the grief bone, and I am crying, and nobody can hear me, because I am terribly, terribly... terribly alone.


It`s like a sticky, black pool of pitch, immobilizing me, keeping at dead end and sucking me in. It`s been 8 years now... Pain is difficult to withstand... Death would be a relief... Sometimes I wish I killed myself when I was 16. My greatest challenge is my own mind and past haunting me. Everything become difficult for me, I don`t have energy, I`m dropping in lethargy... Fear... Exhaustion... Sense of guilt... Deep, terrible embarassment...

Persistent apathy. A complete, utter, shocking lack of positive emotions. The ability to feel angry is also gone. Everything seems like it's extremely hard; taking out the trash and other menial chores get procrastinated, any kind of change in work is extremely taxing. You don't have any motivation to do things that you know have to be done.

Extreme introversion. You may not wish harm to anyone, but you would love for the world to be devoid of people altogether.

It's also hard to describe how your mind feels. It's kinda like your mind is wrapped in wet cardboard, keeping you from reaching emotional reward.

When my frontal lobe came back, it felt like sunlight chasing away the cold and roaches, a crack in a dam letting murky water pour out, dead anger cells shaking off leaving almost an electric trail on the skin. I was in it for years - after, I learned/relearned how to be a human step by step.

Dear god, that emptiness, I hate having photos take of me because no matter what, I have that apathetic look. I could be high as a kite, stoned, or really happy but that apathetic look just stays true. I even see a pure lack of joy and interest in my eyes when I look in the mirror, so much so that it intrigues me to the point of cocking my head to get a new angle... But the apathy will eventually change to pure hatred, and I will hate everything I see.

This is exactly what happens when I look in mirrors.

If I make a tiny mistake, the world is going to come crashing down around me, I realize this is insane when I'm thinking it but I still think it. I can't seem to escape the eternal fear and anxiety because of my depression and inferiority complex. It sucks so bad.

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