Receiving orders from an SP is like trying to eat an apple with a spoon, because you always ask: "why?", and then get extremely frustrated...
8.09,2007
Kris L., email, webpage
age: 30's
When I tested out as an INTJ and read up on it, it was such a relief. It explained a lot of things. I always felt different, but not an any of the "different" ways that I've ever heard of. The INTJ type is so rare it can make it difficult to feel like I belong. I felt, even as a kid, that my brain worked differently than most people. It wasn't just that I was at the top of my class most of the time; is was as if I used a different reasoning process. I work with computers now, and a lot of people are at least close to the same type, which helps a lot.
I'm not good at small talk and wish I were. I love animals and have found it easiest to "chat" with someone when we're talking about our pets. It may be a crutch, but it works.
I think I may be a little nervous about getting close to people. I don't trust easily.
I get irritated sometimes when things go slowly. Sometimes it seems to take forever for people to get to the point. I don't think acting impatient helps, though.
When it comes right down to it, I do like helping people, even though sometimes I really need to be alone
Here is some info (of course this is very general):
- if you go to a library and see someone looking though books and moving in a robot-ish kind of way (purposeful and efficient) then that is likely one of us.
- if you see someone walking and they do not even acknowledge someone walking past them it could be one of us (their gait may not be 100% perfect cause thinking all the time)
- bookstore, could be seeing a movie by themselves, restaurant by themselves.
- by themselves walking purposefully
The main point is ESFJs have a "logic -button" that they want "pushed". By explaning theories in a confident way the world becomes more certain to them. Uncertainty makes them panic.
INTJs (believe it or not) have a "feeling-button" that we want pushed.
The "buttons" are for the things we don't do naturally - they don't do logic and we don't do feelings. Each other's dominant function is the suggestive function of the other.
That is duality.
They key is that my ESFJ wife is more than happy to have an interactive conversation about all my theories - I think I struck gold there.
8.09,2007
Kris L., email, webpage
age: 30's
When I tested out as an INTJ and read up on it, it was such a relief. It explained a lot of things. I always felt different, but not an any of the "different" ways that I've ever heard of. The INTJ type is so rare it can make it difficult to feel like I belong. I felt, even as a kid, that my brain worked differently than most people. It wasn't just that I was at the top of my class most of the time; is was as if I used a different reasoning process. I work with computers now, and a lot of people are at least close to the same type, which helps a lot.
I'm not good at small talk and wish I were. I love animals and have found it easiest to "chat" with someone when we're talking about our pets. It may be a crutch, but it works.
I think I may be a little nervous about getting close to people. I don't trust easily.
I get irritated sometimes when things go slowly. Sometimes it seems to take forever for people to get to the point. I don't think acting impatient helps, though.
When it comes right down to it, I do like helping people, even though sometimes I really need to be alone
Here is some info (of course this is very general):
- if you go to a library and see someone looking though books and moving in a robot-ish kind of way (purposeful and efficient) then that is likely one of us.
- if you see someone walking and they do not even acknowledge someone walking past them it could be one of us (their gait may not be 100% perfect cause thinking all the time)
- bookstore, could be seeing a movie by themselves, restaurant by themselves.
- by themselves walking purposefully
The main point is ESFJs have a "logic -button" that they want "pushed". By explaning theories in a confident way the world becomes more certain to them. Uncertainty makes them panic.
INTJs (believe it or not) have a "feeling-button" that we want pushed.
The "buttons" are for the things we don't do naturally - they don't do logic and we don't do feelings. Each other's dominant function is the suggestive function of the other.
That is duality.
They key is that my ESFJ wife is more than happy to have an interactive conversation about all my theories - I think I struck gold there.
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